What could mean more?
Its the moment many ladies dream of- when in a suitably romantic location (under a streetlamp in my case) the man of your dreams drops to one knee, tells you he loves you with all his heart and produces a sparkly ring- hoping that you will agree to spend the rest of your life with him.
In my case, the girl said ‘yes’ the ring went on the finger and from that moment on, I had a visable reminder of that agreement and that in just a few months time, I will be fully promising to be a wife- til death do us part.
On the tube, at work, out shopping, the sparkles remind me of my man, of the blessing of our relationship and of the promises to wed that we have made. That’s the beauty of a ring-unlike necklaces or earrings which are more of an outward adornment, you catch sight of it yourself all the time- and it becomes not just jewellry, but an inward reminder too.
In a month’s time, I’ll be adding a second ring to that finger- a sign to myself and the world of the even bigger promises I’ll make on my wedding day. The vows we take before God during the ceremony are serious- and, as was mentioned at a recent marriage prep session we went to, will glue us together. I’m in the process of learning those vows- not so that I can recite them on the day, but rather so I can remember them throughout my marriage. The ring on my finger will symbolise both my love for my husband, and the promises that we have made, and be a constant reminder of those as I walk through life.
My diamond and platinum engagement ring is easily worth 5 times the amount of my wedding ring, but its the wedding ring that will ultimately be more valuable to me- because what it symoblises is a greater promise, of greater worth.
All very well and good- but would it shock you to know that on my other ring finger I wear a ring that will always be even more valuable to me than either my wedding or engagement rings?
What could be more valuable than promising a lifetime to another?
I bought the other ‘mystery’ ring myself, in a secondhand jewellers in Fulham a few years ago, it has a tiny point diamond in, and it set me back the grand total of £28.
The reason I bought it, was that I had been totally struck by how the promises of God to us far outway any human promise or relationship. I had gone through a tough time, and I had been drawn to meditating and studying on the amazing promises of God in the bible. They are numerous, but include:
To love us,
To never leave or forsake us
To make all things work for the good of those who love him
To prepare a place for us in heaven
To call us children, and as such we can call him Father
To, through Christ, remove our sins from us- as far as the East is from the west.
I memorised some of these promises and used the symbolism of the ring to help remind me of the deep commitment and love of my creator.
Indeed, God’s promises to his people are described as a covenant- the most unbreakable and serious of promises. And, unlike marriage- these are eternal rather than just lifelong.
So thats why this ring is more valuable. whilst one sparkly finger reminds me of a wonderful man who has won me for a lifetime, the smaller, humbler ring reminds me of a passionate loving father, who has, through his son, won me for eternity.